growing in all directions...

I keep telling myself im going to post more on my blog...i used to post at least twice a week...i will continue to work on it...

i went bowling on sunday for the first time in about four years...and i cant bowl at all, but its was fun just hanging out, goofing off and laughing...i think my highest game was like a 77...yeah...HA!...funny how the more wine i drank the better i got...we bowled with one of eli's (i think this is the first time i used his name on this blog)clients, she also does my hair from time to time and is the one that invited us to church...she calls us her kids...its nice to have a mother figure around....but they made a side bet that if he didnt break 100 during the last game the next training session he would have to do all the working out instead of her...he lost...lol...she was already plotting on how she was going to have him running and doing a bunch of push ups...i had to tell her that doing all that won't phase him, that's less than his daily workout...

sunday was a good day though...we got up and went to church, to the mall and out to eat...eli bought us matching all white air force ones...we were joking that in michigan, we call them "ones" and in milwaukee, where he's from, they call them dookies"...i have no clue how folks nickname an all white shoe "dookie"...but anyway, it was cute...we wore them to the bowling alley...

church has been really good for us...we always leave thinking about what was said and talking about how it applies to our life..its allowing us to have a different kind of conversation and strengthening our relationship...

life is so simple right now...and thats not a bad things at all...
there was a post on my messageboard asking folks if they could go back in time and change something they regret doing without it effecting their future, would they would do it...
my first thought was i dont regret anything...but after thinking about it for awhile, i realize thats not true...but i dont think i regret anything enough to go back and change anything...i realize a lot of the things i regret are things i did to myself, that affected my body and my mind...and while that was all painful to work through, i needed to learn those lessons...i made it harder on myself, but i learned...now the question says that erasing past deeds will not affect the future but then how else would i have learned those lessons? how could i be the person i am if i erased those situations and experiences? growing pains are an essential part of life...

antway, how is everyone? anything new, interesting or exciting?

catfish and kool-aid

a couple days ago i really had something to blog about...but i didnt write it down so now im just typing jibberish..

so my puppy is too smart for his own good..actually i should say my puppy is too greedy for his own good...or maybe ill just say, my puppy is bad as hell...

i left my cell phone on the kitchen counter the other night because i didnt feel like carrying it...there was also a to-go box of food on the counter...yeah do you see where this is going...

well, marcus was able to swipe down my cell phone cause the food was a little too far away...and he decided my phone was good enough to chew on...sooo, i ended up having to get a new phone, but i had to wait for sprint to order a new one and my old one was out of commission...

those two days without a phone made me realize how much i depend on it..and its not that i even talk on the phone that much..but i now i see how much i use it for other things...texting, sudoku, i write notes to myself constantly because im always forgetting something, i am always setting the reminder on my calendar...but all is well, i got my new phone and bought a new plastic case for it...and i now that i know he can jump and get stuff down i wont be leaving my phone lying around anymore...lesson learned...

i had some time off work and one of my best friends came out to visit...we had such a good time...myra and i have been friends since 6th grade...it was so good to kick it with her...mostly we just went shopping...we went out and got mani/pedis and i took her to a couple of my fav places to eat...myra, my friend marie, my boyfriend and i went to salsa night at one of the casinos...and then sat around talking and nursing our drinks that we didnt even dance...i wont even comment on the high card/low card games...lets just say i wont be drinking vodka anytime soon...

myra and my boyfriend clicked really well and myra and marie seemed like instant sisters...

i once told marie that if i were able to get my close girlfriends in one place for at least a weekend, i have no doubt everyone would get along...i think the core values all my friends have in common are loyalty, logic and a very strick moral compass...and well they all seem to love my crazy ass for some reason....sooo ladies...when can we get together?

life is pretty good right now despite the dragging economy...my sweetie has been doing some networking for his personal training business and we are just enjoying each other and planning for the future...
we dont have much but we are happy with what we have and we both know there is more in store...we have family, health and each other...we have started going back to church..all though its been a slow process, we keep waking up late, but we are determined...

we saw madea goes the jail the other week...that was a cute movie..but...i think they spent so much time setting up the plot once it got it its climax it kinda zoomed to the finish...and once you saw the credits rolling i started feeling like i missed something...

oh and i must pat myself on the back...i made the best fried catfish the other day...my sweetie and i started this "tradition" that every first monday in the month is fried catfish monday...we usually have catfish filets or nuggets and rotate different side dishes every month...so since my girl was here i made enough for us and invited over marie and shabazz...i hooked it up with greens, mac and cheese (it was perfect, extra cheesy on the inside with that baked crust on the outside) and cornbread...yes,its friday and im still patting myself on the back...it was amazing...we all pigged out...

i hope everyone is doing well in blog land...Hunnie you have the cutest baby belly i have ever seen! i cant wait until you pop out booter! im sure you cant either, lol

im drinking hot tea

the title is dedicated too shabazz, lol...we have had a couple interesting convos the past week, lol

So i told my mom my huny and i are living together..she took it pretty well...even though she managed to get in "shackin up," living in sin," and "playing house" all in one phone converstation...i understand she just wants to make sure that he was contributing financially...after that issues with my old roomie i see my mama is just looking out for me...i keep telling her, mama his is a good guy, he has his shyt together, no need to worry...she was like i cant wait to see your dads face when yall tell him...mmmm, thats going to be interesting...since my dad still thinks im 12...

i mailed some picks home of my trip to atlanta for homecoming and the trip to vegas and my dad said that my shirt was a little low...i had a on a beater...thats not low...but i suppose thats the price you pay for being a daddy's girl...you never get to grow up...i want to ask my mom "doesnt dad know im closer to 30 than i am to 20?"...but i didnt i mean really whats the point...i understand..im the baby girl...but it can get irritating..anyone else have this experience?

anyway my mom is so excited about our trip home...its not until the end of april..we havent even got tickets yet...but she has been waiting for more than two years to meet him...its kinda cute...she has been telling her church friends about meeting him and they keep telling her he is coming home to "properly ask my father for permission to marry me."..umm no, lol...its just WAY past time for them to meet...my parents dont have the money to get out here and plus they dont like to fly and i barely get home more than once a year myself...so this is going to be a nice trip...of course he has to stay at my brothers house...my parents are real old school...besides i no longer have a room at my parents house anway...my bed is the couch...

we took the dogs hiking the other day..it was so fun...marcus and lily and a great time running around and sniffing everything...they didnt want to get back on their leashes...the hike wore them out, they slept most of the rest of the day...which is a good thing cause marcus has learned how to get things off the counter...he helped himself to some guacamole the other night when we were gone...

anyway life is good...pretty simple..but wonderful...my family is good, friends are doing great..although i miss them...andrea being in new york and pru and tootie in atlanta...way too far from me...but i have marie here to hold me down and my huny as we continue to grow closer and make future plans...

ive been thinking about a lot of people i used to deal with lately...old roomie, a couple ex's...i realize how much i want them to be happy...even if i dont talk to them often or not at all..ive been feeling the need to reach out more...mend relationships...at the same time i feel good letting the past be the past...ive moved on...so im really not sure what these feelings mean...or what i should do with them...but a part of me knows i just shouldnt sit on them..be proactive somehow...

we decided to have a bbq in a couple weeks..it should be fun...for all yall east coast people..its be in the 80s here the past week..nice huh? i dont have much money but i love having people over and cooking...it will all work out...folks need to fellowship more often...im going to try and get a spades table rockin along with a couple other games...and i have a feeling the shot glasses will be coming out...if yall are in the neighborhood feel free to stop by and kick it!