heavy...

i was talking with my best friend drea today...thats my girl...love her to death...we hadnt talked in about a week so we had to catch up...not that much is goin on in my life but she doesnt mind hearing about the mundane stuff either....
so i was asking her about her weekend and she goes on to tell me that her and a group of friends went to a pool party given by a friend of her good friend and while the party 4 of the guys that came with her group left the party with the sister of her firends friend...folllow me...well the sister is slightly mentally challenged and the guys drove off with the girl and pretty much raped her..because of the disability the girl came back to the party and didnt really realize that she had been violated...my girl drove home with these dudes...i guess the next day the sister wakes up and cant walk and her family takes her to the hospital where she finally tells the family what happened...
drea tells me we went to school with these guys and she has been hanging out with them since she moved to the east coast a few years ago...she is shocked cause she never would have thought that these guys would do something like that...
she is supposed to hang with them this weekend but decided to back out..she cant tell them that she knows what went down just yet...well until the police do their thing and she doesnt want to hang with the dudes knowing they did something so horrible cause she cant keep her mouth shut and will go off and that might spoil the investigation...
i was sitting there like da hell...i was blown away, like wow i cant believe this mess...i am so glad those guys never laid a hand on my girl but i feel so bad for this woman that they took advantage of....

so then we started talking about some of the random, dangerous and dumb stuff we did while we were in school....
this one time i think junior or senior year....well i dont really remember....my friends think some guy drugged my drink cause i hadnt drank very much that night (not even one whole glass) and i cant remember hardly anything...but i dunno and since i cant remember anything whose to say...i do remember getting out of a car (it mights been mine) at a house with a bunch of steps...i remember a guy picking me up fireman style, and dropping me on my head, i remember thinkgin damn that didnt even hurt...i remember drea saying we had to leave and them getting me out of the house...aint that crazy? i dont remember driving to the house, if i drove, or even going into the house, i dont remember anything before hitting my head, i dont even remember the guys or how many guys... things coulda popped off that night and i wouldnt have known...
i remember one time 3 of us jumped in this mans car at the drive through cause the taco bell was closed and we wee hungry...he let us order and dropped us off on campus...but he coulda pulled off and took us somewhere and did God's knows what...
i also remember while we were in the car one of my girls took my other girl's pocket knife, got out the car and ran up on the car of guys in front of us screaming with the knife in her hand scaring them..they could pulled out a gun and shot her...
drea said we have been lucky, im like naw, we have been blessed...obviously we were supposed to be on earth a little while longer...
numerous times we walked around the west end at like 2 or 3 in the morning...with only our room key and some ID...
i wont even get into more of the stoopid stuff we did, cause yall might wanna slap me through the computer...im just glad im still here...
we did a lot of stoopid stuff without thinking about consequences or safety...

im glad ive grown up a little...far from grown but ive grown up....now me and the girls are all in different parts of the u.s. but we have are mutual experiences to keep us together...and we can remind each other of stuff we did just in case we are about to get ourselves in a situation...
even though i had to hear that sad story about her friends sister im glad i got a chance to talk to my girl...


random:
-i used a new shampoo and gloss today on my hair, its really working well...
-the only coast i havent lived on is the east coast i think that will be my next move, if i dont go south again...
-main reaso i want to move it to at least be near one of my girls...
-i need to paint my toenails...
-i need to review my notes from my copyediting fellowship....my brain feels like it needs a refresher...
-i notice i dont fight for relationships...wondering if i should fight more often?
-to buy blush or not to buy blush?
-the mary kay lady wants me to sell mary kay..i cant wait to tell her that stuff made my skin feel all nasty...
-men are crazy...
-women are crazy too...
-i got a lot of work to do tomorrow, think ill come in a couple hours early...
-so i can leave a couple hours early...
-i need to learn to say im sorry...thats hard for me to do...
-im so damn stubborn...
-ill work on it...
-im lookin good today...
-real good...
-midol is the shyt...
-ive watched madea goes to jail 4 times in the past week...
-and ive cried twice...
-at the same part
-be patient with me...God is not through with me yet..

birthday fun and hair issues....

my birthday week was fun...my mama says you gotta celebrate for a week...and i did...after ringing it in on top of the bar i chilled out the next day....i had planned on spending my birthday by myself and that exactly what i did...i just felt like bringing my in 25th year in solitude, with my own thoughts....i took myself out to lunch, got a pedicure, bought a couple books and a few new shirts, pretty much just spent money i had no business spending...i bought myself some gorgeous pink roses and spent the rest of the night reading, writing and watching tv...it was very peaceful....
my parents flew in on thursday afternoon and i spent some time gettign them settled..i idnt get the days off i requested so i had to work the whole time they were here but we made the best of it...we ate and did a little shopping each day...my mom bought me the CUTEST shoes...
fridays night was the big birthday party for the three of us who celebrated birthdays..one on the 10th, me on the 11th and another on the 12th...we had a big party at this club we go to....i would put up some photos but....well....they r a little incriminating....lets just say everyone had a good time at the club...afterward we all came back to my place where we finished off a couple bottle of wine i had, played music and when everyone got hungry, i made a dozen eggs complete with cheese and hot sause....
my parents and i went to L.A. on monday...and i was not impressed...maybe i was just not in the right spot in L.A. but i wasnt feelin it...went to see some fam and friends and then drove back home....
my parents left tuesday morning...and i missed them as soon as i got back in the car to head home...my mom gave me 'madea goes to jail' for my b-day and some pics of the fam..i gotta put up the pic of my and my daddy....


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im having hair issues...
i really think this extreme heat is messing with my hair...
i noticed my hair was shedding like crazy a few weeks ago and i was worried
so i went and got it trimmed. the woman who trimmed my hair suggested a shampoo/conditioner for dry and damaged hair to give my hair/scalp xtra moisture
she also said to rotate between that shampoo and a clarifying shampoo to reduce build up she also suggested adding a lite oil...
today i washed my hair and i see broken pieces in the middle...and that pissed me offf...
ever sense i lived in atlanta i took pride in knowing how to take care of my hair...i had a real good beautician who taught me a lot about caring for my hair and what i need to do because to keep it looking right..my hair is very thick and not too coarse, i dont have to mess with it too much, it keeps its body for quite a while...i wash it once a week, and only put heat on it once a week and keep it wrapped...i get it trimmed regularly and a relaxer every 3-4 months....half the time i walk out of the house forgetting to comb my hair but all i have to do is run my fingers through it and im good to go....
im trying not to trip on the broken pieces...im just going to get my hair back in shape but this heat and direct sunlight is sooo not cool...in the desert where i live i have been told more than a hundred times to protect my eyes with sun glasses and my skin with sunscreen because the desert intense UVA and UVB rays...but no one said anything to me about my hair...
i was going about my usual routine like i used to do in indiana and i am just now realizing that this different climate means i have to switch it up....
anyone have any hair tips?
im about to go out tomorrow and get a deep condtioner....

ITS MY BIRTHDAY!!!

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i brought my 25th birthday in the right way...dancing on top of a bar with a pretty blue drink in my hand!!
the deal was last night that every time a bobby brown song came on i had to climb up on the bar and dance....i think they played about 4 bobby songs....and i made 12 dollars! HA!...its been a great birthday so far....
going out to lunch soon with a friend....maybe dinner with the girls...i have the whole day to not do a damn thing....i went and got myself a pedicure and an eyebrow wax and treated myself to some new candles and a couple books....

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my birthday twin Greg...love you much!!

Im Addicted to BRAVO!

i mean come on..any television station that has the balls to bring



that into your home has to be on to something...

at first i was addicted to UPN and then VH1 but now BRAVO is holding my interests...maybe i have become a reality show whore, but thats okay, i find these people so damn funny...so yes, i am claiming my addictions, and no, i dont want rehab just gimme more of these shows...



i could you not love queer eye...i mean these men make me wanna get up and redecorate or go shopping or something...they can get a little sensational at times but they are fun to watch...


ok, now i thought this show was going to be hella corny...but...i mean i find myself laughing out loud during every show..this woman is just crazy...i mean she just syas whatever she wants...and i think she is pretty talented, she just makes a few notes of what she wants to say on stage and then get out there and almost wings the whole show...and she is funny...


who didnt watch dave chapelle on inside the actors studio? if you didnt u missed a treat...go find it on youtube or something...i watched his 2 hour interview at least 3 times...lipton has some great interviews...


since i dont have much drama in my life, this show def gives me the little bit of drama i crave...i swear i dont know where they get these designer wannabe's and hopetabe's but they are hilarious...