Only in Michigan?

i had a rather amusing conversation with my boy derek last night....dont ask how it all started because im not sure...i do know he is the reason that that montell jordan song 'lets ride' will not stop playing in my head...if he wouldnt have sang the darn song a good 5 times last night i would be so much more settled right now...lol

but during the convo we started talking about how parties and clubs dont play music like they used to....there are no slow songs...ever...just the radio rotation with probably a little break in the middle for some reggae....

there is no slow dancing anymore...no more "its time to talk about taking you home now cause the place is about to shut down" type music....

so we started thinking is it only a michigan thing...we are both from michigan although we didnt meet until we were in college in atlanta....but we compared notes and realized we both had the same experiences with music and also noted that our michigan friend who DJ'ed a lot of parties we went to in atlanta always brought the michigan flavor....

this is what we noticed....in michigan whenever we went to dances...there was a certain format/sequence that could always be followed by whoever was DJ'ing the party:

first - the DJ would play all the popular songs that were on the regular radio rotation

second - he would really get folks riled up by spinning some mid-west stuff, ex. Jit, Perculator..the music where all u could do was feel the beat, and DANCE, even if u started dancing by yourself i guarentee by the end u had a partner...now this is the time where the party could get really raunchy (since my mom chaperoned every single party i went to that was not the case for me)...

third - at the end of the dance the last maybe 5 songs would be slow grind type songs...the real sultry songs that would give u the chance to simulate the deed your mama and daddy did to bring u into this world....the ones where u would ask for, or be asked for, your number...being that we were in high school it was a little more innocent than college...u didnt go home with anyone because most likely your mama was coming to pick u and your girls up...or was already waiting outside for you and you couldnt take to long to get out the place because u didnt want you mama to have to park and get out..that would mean some real hard embarrassment for you...

now...that was michigan...and those were FUN....maybe its because we were a lot less innocent then when we were in college...but it was a time when u could cool out and just chill at the end of the party....the wind down time...

there is no more wind down time now....its all bang, bang, bang, bang....get hype! get hype!

so then we started talking about our DJ friend in atlanta and how he brought that michigan flavor with him...he threw some of the BEST loft parties while i was in school...and i loved that i got in on the friends and family free free disount....

and although he probably didnt play as much Jit and Perculator he mangaged to throw a little in from time to time....but what he always did....he always had the slow set at the end...songs like Anywhere by 112 and T-shirt and Panties by Adina...and this one thumper of a grind song that i cannot recall the name of right now but it had one hell of a melody....

if i may reminice one mo' 'gin...one time me and my college boyfriend, cornell, had had another one of our famous fights over nothing in particular, as usual....and of course we ended up at the same party, as usual...eyeballing each other on the dance floor but not really having any words for each other...

((oh and yeah another thing about these slow times was that the lights went REAL dim, almost black , at this party with my ex there was a blue light in one corner and a red one in another corner, and the loft was packed from wall to wall))

so anyway my boy threw on this slow banger of a song...and i was on the dance floor and he was on the dance floor...MMMMMAAAAAAANNNN......all was forgiven after that dance....OOOKKKKKAAYYY.....it was just like yeah BOOM we back...the dancing was just so sensual and erotic that we HAD to make up....

but anyway...so me and derek were speaking on the phone like where are those songs? and how come there is no more slow dancing anymore....

i also remember derek and my boy justin (another MI representative) threw a house party...and of course it was dark...and i remember me and derek getting kind of close against the wall, just dancing yet it was slightly arrousing....i saw him in a whole new light after that...or it could have just been the drinks were kicking in...HA..i hope he doesnt read this....but u know house parties, it got broken up a few songs later...

so we were wondering is it just a michigan thing? just the chill slow dance time at a party? does anyone still do that or is it just dead and gone....and all we have left are the memories...

derek said he was going to throw a party...and it was going to be a nice michigan style party..lots of dancing, and a slow set at the end...id love to attend that.....grab a nice drink, kick back and just dance all night..have my girls around me and my boys there too...meeting new people, singing, dancing...and just having a good time.......

i really have to move.....LOL....