cute

i got this e-mail from my girl Sevens a few weeks ago...i thought it was nice...i posted all but that part that at the end that told me i won't find true love if i don't send it to fifty-eleven people within 2 seconds...dont you hate when things say that? or some forwards will say if you send this back to me ill know you are my real friend...da hell? if you dont know you are my homie by my everyday actions then maybe we need to sit and reevaluate this here friendship...i never resend that those just out of spite...ok, went off on a tangent....enjoy...


Find a guy, who calls you beautiful instead of hot.

Who calls you back when you hang up on him.

Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.

Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead.

Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.

Who holds your hand in front of his friends.

Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.

Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

Memes - thanks G

1. How tall are you barefoot?
*5 feet 0 inches

2. Have you ever flown first-class?
*maybe one day

3. One of your favorite books when you were a child?
*it was this book call The Chosen Baby...my mom used to read me this book all the time about this couple who adopted a little boy then a little girl. she would change the names of the characters to correspond with our family...i thought me and my family had a book written about us until i learned to read and found out my mom had been substituting the names

4. A good restaurant in your city?
*i absolutely love Maki Maki...im there all the time...the manager gives me a hug when she passes the table....i mean how can you resist half price sushi?

5. What is your favorite small appliance?
*well since a cell phone isnt an appliance...although i love my Treo...ill have to say...i dont have one...is a DVR an appliance?

6. One person that never fails to make you laugh?
*my girl drea AlLWAYS cracks me up...i LOVE when she makes up new slang terms...she is hilarious....

7. What’s your favorite Christmas song?
*Let It Snow by Boyz II Men and Brian McKnight

8. What was the first music that you ever bought?
*The first tape that I bought was The Boys:Messages from the Boys...i LOVED them...

9. Do you do push-ups?
*for what? next question....

10. What was one of your favorite games as a child?
*Girl Talk..it was a board game and had this big azz pink phone and you had to draw cards and call the boys on the card with the phone and they would give you clues to figure out which one liked you...i cant believe my mama bought me that

11.What is the one thing that you cook that always receives compliments?
*my chicken wings, my baked chicken breasts and my spaghetti...and those canned collard greens...i can heat them up real good...

12. When you were twelve years old, what did you want to be when you grew up?
*i think i wanted to be a teacher

13. Your favorite Soup of the Day?
*Progresso Traditional Chicken Noodle

14. What in your life are you most grateful for?
*my family, my friends..I LOVE YALL

15. Have you ever met someone famous?
*well ummmm, my friend Jamuary looks a little like p.diddy if you close one eye and bend your head to the left about 30 degrees..i met lil jon before he blew up...back then he was just some pitiful looking dude trolling the AUC with locs that needed to be touched up

16. Date Of Birth?
*July 11, 1981...write it down...

17. Top 3 thoughts at this exact moment:
*1. im bout to get in the bed when i finish this thing
2. why am i watching queer eye for the straight guy right now
3. i wonder if i can find that Girl Talk game

18. Three people you're thinking about right now:
*1.andrea
2.my bro Alex
3.D.B.

19. Name five drinks you regularly drink
*1. Lipton Diet Green Tea, citrus flavor
2. FIJI water
3. Tropicana OJ w/ fiber
4. Starbucks green tea lemonade
5. Magnisium Ciltrate (keeps ya regular)

20. From what news source do you receive the bulk of your news?
*well i work at a newspaper...im constantly on the wires

21. Current hair?
*i just got this cute cut...im growing my hair out and this lady shaped it real cute so it looks good while it growing...i really cant explain it...

22. Current worry?
*i gave my worries up to God a while ago...im pretty content

23. Current hate?
*ummm...none really...well it was humid today...but thank God it only reached 105..

24. Favorite place to be?
*whereever my family and friends are...

25. Least favorite place to be?
*i dont have a place, i love going to work, i love being at home

26. Do you consider yourself well organized?
*yeah, everything has it place

27. Do you believe in a afterlife?
*ya goin up or ya goin down....

28. Where do you think you will be in 10 Yrs?
*have no clue...possibly back in atlanta...maybe texas....maybe east coast...no matter where i end up i know ill be successful...my dream is too edit books, maybe ill be doing that or i may still be in newspapers

29. Do you burn or tan?
*funny, ive actually gotten darker since ive been in california...i even had to get a darker foundation..but burn, naw man

30. Who was the last blogger you hung out with?
*not tellin

31. Are you more optimistic or pessimistic about the future?
*Very optimistic

32. Last time you had an alcoholic drink?
*i took this week off..so its been since saturday...where i sipped a margarita..didnt even finish it...

33. What songs do you sing in the shower?
*none, i use my shower time to day dream

34. What did you fear was going to get you at night as a kid?
*i thought there was a witch in my closet so i had to make sure to shut the door

35. What’s in your pockets right now?
*do panties have pockets cause thats all i have on...but if i was wearing something with pockets id probably just have some lint

36. Last thing that made you laugh?
*i shared quite a few laughs today with co-workers..we always have a good time at work, even on deadline

37. Best bed sheets you had as a child?
*dunno....

38. Worst injury you’ve ever had?
*never been injured forreal...had some whiplash after an accident a couple years ago..

39. Favorite song?
*if its R&B, i love it..im a slow jam kinda girl

40. How many TVs do you own?
*i have two in my apartment and one back at my parents house...well, actually they bought that one but i have the remote for it out here with me...go figure

41. In the last calendar year, how many people have you told that you love them?
*i say i love you to someone at least once a day...no telllin how many...

42. Last person that made you blush?
*i have this crazy crush on the 56 year old security guard at work..he is soooo hot...my boy D said somethin real sweet to me earlier today before work

43. Best Compliment received?
*my boy richy pointed at me the other night and told this guy that i am one of the sweetest, most down people he knows...i thought that was really nice...dont know of its the best but its the most recent...my parents did say they wer prud of me when they came to visit in july..that almost made me cry

44. What song is in your head?
*lost without you by robin thicke....i have been putting it on repeat...visiting my own myspace page and blog to watch the video

45. What is your favorite book?
*i started rereading when chickenheads come home to roost by joan morgan...i also love racism 101 by nikki giovanni, in search of our mothers gardens by alice walker and for colored girls...by ntozake shange

46. Last meal you cooked for the opposite sex?
*whoa.....its been awhile...when i went to visit derek back in feb we made turkey bacon and scrambled eggs.....he LOVES turkey bacon..he will cook and eat a whole package at one time...trying to make him stop that

47. What songs do you want played at your wedding?
*id love to have "who would i be" by kindred and of course some luther of and "you" by jesse powell...and maybe at the end of the night some mary j and method man "all i need"

48. What song do you want played at your funeral?
*i dont plan on having a funeral, i told my mom to throw a big party, get a DJ and dance...remember me smiling and having a good time

49. What were you doing at 12 midnight last night?
*the local bar...one of my boys was moving...so the crew met up at "our Cheers" and had a good time

50. What would you like to accomplish with the remaining years of your life?
*id like to encourage and motivate people to live life and keep dreaminig...id like to keep a smile on my face...love hard, laugh hard, and hug as many people as possible

I Love My Ladies

i was going through some kinda of withdrawal the two years i spent in indiana...i had people who i became close too...who i enjoyed talking to and fellowshiping with...but i missed my girls somethin fierce...my best friends live in mew york, atlanta, michigan, and north carolina...no where near me...i learned how to get along by myself, take myself shopping or out to eat...i learned to cherish every single phone call and visit...i am stronger for that alone time...i think God put me in the position to show me how strong i really am...
but i missed my ladies, i missed the hugs, the laughs, the spur of the moment outtings...
i have many memories, and during most conversations with my girls we always took it back and talked about what we used to do, places we used to go and the crazy times we shared...

i still miss my best ladies...there are five women out there who KNOW ME...who know my history, who i dont have to tell the things i went through because they were there with my holding my hand...and i love them...

college made me value friendships...made me realize how comforting, special and important woman friendships are...and i am BLESSED to have my ladies...

i even met ladies online who i care about...its going on three years since ive met mango and sevens, msinstyle (its so weird using ya'lls screen names)...and although we haven't "met" yet, ya'll have been good to me...yes, i dont call as much as i should...ya'll know i got issues with the phone...but i do think about ya'll and pray for yall right along with my other ladies...

after spending those years in indiana wanting, craving and needing some female bonding He moved me to california...where i was embraced immediately...
i am building relationships with women who are soo there for me...i see them at work and they offer a hug, we meet for lunches and dinners, go out to movies, hit up the mall, sit around someones place and have intimate convos over wine...just last weekend 4 of us hung out at my house drank sangrias and watched diary of a mad black woman til we all fell asleep...i know, hush...then on monday me and two other ladies ordered a table full of thai food and watched the first season of sex in the city....these women are not just co-workers to me anymore...they are friends, people i trust...its in my nature to be critical at first...especially of new people, i dont tell alot about myself when i first meet people...but im glad now that i know i can share who i am...

im also learning that friends dont come in similar packaging...going to a all black womens college, i have to admit, i was a bit biased, i love my black women soo much that i had closed myself off from experiencing other cultures, i essentailly was taking for granted the experiences of other people...but i swear i have a twin out here who is latina...that is my girl...we think too much alike...we have a great time talking and learning from each other...and im glad i took a step back checked myself and opened up to all possibilities...the world aint black and white, cant even try and live in it like it is...people are put in your life for a reason...

i realize that if i hadnt had that time to myself in indiana i probably wouldnt appreciate the connections i have made since ive been in cali...sure there are times when i need to be alone...i have learned that i need space to do me, there are days when i still take myself to lunch or movies because i truly enjoy my own company...but it feels good knowing that i dont have to be alone, i can pick up the phone and make plans...

i smile because i have discovered that value of friendship...i wish i could gather all my ladies in one room...i KNOW that would be an experience...cause all my friends are crazy...yeah, i said it, yall crazy! but i am too...and i know everyone would get along because everyone has something in common...

so anyway...to all my ladies i love yall, i miss yall...and i cant wait to see yall...drea, pru, tootie...atlanta in october?
marie, sandra, leslie, lala, valerie any plans for sunday?

Lost Without You by Robin Thicke

My girl Leslie turned me on to this song....absolutely love it!...the woman in the video is his wife...if you have seen Idlewild she may look familiar..she was Andre3000's love interest...imma send this one out to Derek....

What does your siggy say?

i was looking at my personal e-mail signature...i was thinking i should change it up but after looking it over i decided to keep it...i like it...it shows my personality...does yours?

my sig:

"the authority of the writer always overcomes the skepticism of the reader." -Nikki Giovanni
"show me a writer, any writer, who hasnt suffered and ill show you someone who writes in pastels as opposed to primary colors." -Rita Mae Brown
"work like you dont need the money, love like youve never been hurt, and dance like you do when nobodys watching." -from I Wish I had A Red Dress by Pearle Cleage
"i found God in myself and i loved Her/i loved Her fiercely." -Ntozake Shange

Because.

"BECAUSE" by TD Jakes

Just because no one has been fortunate enough to
realize what a gold mine you are,
Doesn't mean you shine any less.

Just because no one has been smart enough to figure out
that you can't be topped,
Doesn't stop you from being the best.

Just because no one has come along to share your life,
Doesn't mean that day isn't coming.

Just because no one has made this race worthwhile,
Doesn't give you permission to stop running.

Just because no one has realized how much of an
awesome woman you are,
Doesn't mean they can affect your femininity.

Just because no one has shown up who can love you on
your level, Doesn't mean you have to sink to theirs.
Just because you deserve the very best there is,
Doesn't mean that life is always fair.

Just because God is still preparing your king,
Doesn't mean that you're not already a Queen.
Just because your situation doesn't seem to be progressing
right now, Doesn't mean you need to change a thing.

Keep shining, keep running, Keep hoping, and keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are already. COMPLETE!!