What is a ho?...

i was visiting my fav message board as i do daily and i noticed the use of the word "ho" numerous times. now i've noticed it many times before and i never really agreed with half the statements made surrounding the word. i think it is used way to liberally. but today it is bothering me to the point where i need to flesh my feelings out about it....

so many "brothers" on the site are quick to call a woman a ho..if a woman sleeps with any given man within any given time period that they deem to close together she is a ho, shit if she sleeps with any man at all thats not them she is deemed a ho...it makes me wonder what their definition of ho is...i thought a ho was the slang term for whore which is a woman being pimped/prostituted...someone please correct me if my definition is wrong...i understand that the world has evolved and things have changed but does that make the broad use of the word ho right?
now ive also noticed quite a few men talking about their latest and greatst conquest...mention two, three and sometimes four women that they have slept with yet the word ho is nowhere to be seen, in fact no comment is made...i know this is an age old debate whether a man can really be a ho, or whther he is just "sowing his wild oats" but damn, dont woman need to sow some oats too?
and then i look at the men who say this...big ass ego's...big ass ego's...big ass ego's....since i dont personally know these men i cant really bash them, and i dont want to but i just wonder why the negativity...and the contridictions....one minute we are their lack queens, then their little heart get stepped on or ego gets crushed or they get rejected...and alla sudden we are just ho's....

i dont think that a number can represent anybody..and yet some men in the world believe that it does...the number of men slept with or lack of represents the quality of a woman..i just find that so unfuckingbelieveable and so unfair....
i also see women buy into this...alla sudden they dont believe they are worthy of a man's attention because they have slept with more than 2 or 3 folks...so alla sudden they start calling themselves ho's...how can u live life to the fullest when u r basing your self worth on someone elses perception of u? especially someone who doesnt respect women? and especially someone who may not repsect themselves?

and im not innocent, never claimed to be...but i have rewired myself in the past few years...instead of nodding my head in agreement i now ask questions, beause why should i nod my head when i dont understand, that makes me look like i dont have my own mind...questions make people feel stoopid when they're "opinions" are based on the opinions of someone else, someone who they are probably afraid to disagree with...and why would u be scared of someone who hasnt thought out their own situation properly?

people need to watch their words cause words are powerful and once uttered can not be taken back....people need to start rethinking their definitions and also need to question themselves and others...people need to form their own opinions instead of going with the popular crowd...people need to start standing up an respecting themselves, their bodies and their minds...and people need to start loving themselves so that they can love others....

so to help you start making your own definitions: what is a ho? and who are you?